abandoned, little financial help

My husband is gone for one to two weeks at a time, one or two days off and on the road again. He tells me he is not making any money and leaving most of the household support to me.

He pays little attention to me, doesn't even sleep in the same bed as me. I have no means of support, how do I get out of this loveless marriage. I am certain there is another woman involved..

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Oct 01, 2013
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think of you NEW
by: Anonymous

im sorry your husband is treating you this way. I kind of know the feeling. what you have to do now is stop focusing on what he is and isnt doing and start focusing on taking care of yourself. if youre going to leave do it strategically. Get a job, save up your money, stuff like that. take care of YOU!

Sep 02, 2013
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to abandoned NEW
by: Anonymous

she is taking notice to your husband because she has already did him! He didn't have to become a trucker for for her to notice him. It had already happen and they are doing it under your nose! He has probably told her you dont care if he has outside relationships or that your marriage is open....dont have to be a trucker to do this, it is more likely that a husband will do his neighbors than do it out on the road...where he has more chance of getting a an STD...he figures she is a nurse so she is more careful about STD's.....while your sitting there allowing this to happen they are both laughing at how STUPID you are....try looking in your own backyard before claiming that truckers are the motive for people to cheat...a person does not have to be a trucker to cheat, there are more cheating men in mainstream society than truckers who carry on relationships right under their wives nose...

Sep 02, 2013
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Abandoned too NEW
by: Anonymous

I feel for your pain. You mentioned about you think there may be another woman - of course there is! When the cat is away, the mouse will play! I, too, am going through an emotional roller coaster with my hub. When he was home last month, it was like honeymoon time but after he left to go on the road, he was calling less frequenty & making up all these excuses. Besides lot lizards out there, there is also female truckers! Once the guys get a taste of that big rig, they think they are 18-wheeler maverick cowboy hotshots & they know women find them sexy! I have no idea what is so sexy @ a trucker but I have a neighbor that hasn't given us the time of day as to a hello or anything but as soon as my hub became a trucker & started to bring the truck home, well that neighbor I just mentioned well she never wore makeup before (she is a nurse) but now when she sees my hub home, she now comes over to talk to him if he is working on the car & she has on the makeup & started to wear hot pants & a low cut bra with half her assets hanging out! And since it is summer, my husband loves to wear a tank top which does define his muscular arms more. Well he wore that b4 he became a trucker & never gave him a second's notice but now that he is a trucker, she is giving him all this unwanted attention. And by the way in the 4 years I have known her, she has not had a man but now she wants a married man when there is a single guy living next door to her that is handsome & well built but ignores him. So I have no idea what is so special about truckers & this nurse well when I come out, she leaves my husband standing at the car & goes about to walk her dog. So I can't see where these truckers are chick magnets. So far when my hub is home, he is sleeping with me but I have noticed some changes in him since the last time he was home & I gave him no provocation to give him the reason to be this way! So girl you are not alone, trust me! It is not you, it is him (your husband)! Just be careful not to get a STD! Take care!

Aug 03, 2013
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abandoned NEW
by: Jennifer Greene

Sorry, didn't mean to sound sanctimonious or callous. I've studied the Bible intensely and I just know what He says. In fact, there are many cases (almost every case) where women (and men) endured a multitude of abuses in order to bring about a much greater good.
I agree that no one needs a man (or woman) to be happy or fulfilled. That can only come from within. Good times are great but it's life's challenges that make us better. Marriage is not like dateing. We forget the times when divorce was rare.
I'm just grateful that He remains faithful even when we are not. You can google what God says about marriage. But like I said, I am in no position to preach and I am not perfect. "All things work together for the good for those who believe and are called according to His purpose".

Aug 02, 2013
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Anonymous NEW
by: Anonymous

Sounds like you put Yourself in a position!

Aug 02, 2013
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I think that is a bit twisted!!! NEW
by: Anonymous

God did not give us the brains to be stupid...I think there is some distortion in your thoughts about God. If he meant for us to wait around to see things happen no one would go to work and everyone would be on welfare???

God asks us to trust in him as we make our journey through life, he will hold our hands and lead the way however, he will not take the steps for you.... if God did this we would all be weaklings waiting around for the devil to pounce on us as this woman who wrote this post is doing.

We are to be self reliant and not depend on man to fulfill our wants we are to be strong and walk in the same shoes God wears, and serve him not man. Be kind to your fellow man and he will be kind back however, this is not always true, and we must not be taken advantage of. We walk away from men who are in nature, trouble, and let God handle that troubled man.

Separation is okay in the law of marriage and God, and if we step aside he will make the decision if we are to be with each other, we do not tolerate any type of abuse or hang around to be abused just because a vow was taken.... do you really think God wrote that down in his word? Or that he would actually want us to be in that type of pain and suffering.....if so, you have it all twisted up...God wants us to be happy not miserable..if the vow is broken on either side the vow is null & void, and marriage can then be annulled....

Please do not sit here and tell people they must stay in a relationship NO MATTER WHAT, because you are adding fuel to the fire....and that is trifling and you call yourself a person of God??? How dare you use God in vain....

Aug 02, 2013
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abandined NEW
by: Jennifer Greene

I forgot to mention (sorry) that when you make the marriage vows before God and witnesses, you invoke the privledge of committing your bond to God. This allows Him to step in and He is now responsible to navigate this thing. You gave up personal rights and have committed to this bond thru God. Please trust and ask Him because He already knows and is waiting to help. As the most loving Father we can't even imagine, he's DYING to help out.

Aug 02, 2013
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abandoned NEW
by: Jennifer Greene

I'm so sorry for your pain. I believe in the marital bond as commissioned by God and it is never O.K. by Him to divorce, although the Old Test. made concessions at the time.
I have been through many bad relationships and suffered a bad marriage too. God has taken the reigns and made a way out every time. Life is too short. If it were me, I'd seek out the help of some church leaders (with discernment). But you made the decision to marry this man and this situation you are now in is also a result of that decision. Can you petition God and wait for His guidance? He will make your way very clear.
Don't you have access to a joint bank acct.? You should. Also, there are GPS phone apps to let you know where he goes outside of his appointed route.
I will keep you in my prayers, as I also seek to drive that much, and will be away from my man as often.

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