Amanda

Okay I need some advice. My husband and I have had his 2 sons for 2 and a half years. He has now started driving for Swift. I am fine with being a trucker's wife. i love my husband.

But now that his crackheaded ex wife is out of jail, she wants the boys to come see her even though they haven't seen her in 2 years. She is now calling and threatening me, someone has tried to break into my house and my kids are scared to go outside without me there.

I totally despise this woman! I mean more than anything! I am so pissed that this woman can even call herself a mother. She has other kids that she doesn't have custody of due to her drug use, and these babies have been in her house as she not only used drugs, but made meth.

I guess it would be nice to have someone to talk to other than my husband. He feels so bad that he's not here to protect us, but that's his job.

I don't want him to feel any more stress.

We have a lawyer, so I don't need that kind of advice, maybe just someone to tell me it's okay.
Thank you in advance.
Amanda

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Aug 16, 2012
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by: Anonymous

Hi, I think you just have to take extra precautions in your life. I know what it's like to feel threatened and to live in fear. Maybe other don't. The courts will determine if she can be a part of their lives. Until then, it is your job to protect them. It will be hard to get a PTO unless you have some proof that she is threatening your life. However, if she has a past full of drugs it will work to your benefit in court. Other than that, make sure you have custody, and she starts off with supervised visitations, then slowly reintroduce her into their lives. That way you can see if she is serious enough to be a mom without drugs. Good luck and let me know how it goes.
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Jul 29, 2012
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Like you said you have a lawyer?? NEW
by: Anonymous

So why are you asking for advice??? This post doesn't make any sense so I am not to incline to say you are right? Or to tell you everything is okay??

Its not!! First if you really had a lawyer you would not have to come here for advice so I am also inclined to think some of your story may not be true. If you want someone to feel sorry for you well then state just that.

So now I will give you some information on what any normal person would do in this type of situation!!

CALL THE POLICE!!
GET A RESTRAINING ORDER!
PUT A SECURITY CAMERA INSIDE AND OUTSIDE YOUR HOUSE!!
TELL YOUR HUSBAND TO HANDLE THIS!
THEY ARE HIS AND HER CHILDREN! Not yours!

Unless you are some type of control freak why wouldn't you want your husband to take responsibility for this situation?

This just doesn't add up and you are not being responsible either. So no I wont feel sorry for you either putting these children through this is type of drama and this situation that is out of control you should be ashamed of yourself for writing all this drama on a site!!

HANDLE IT!! Like any grown person would do!!

Jul 29, 2012
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by: Anonymous

She gave birth to those children, not you. She is their mother, regardless of her past issues. If the children are afraid, it's because they have been led by you to be afraid of their mother. You did say you detest their mother. Maybe she wants to straighten out her life, maybe she needs something to live for. People make mistakes. You are treating her like she has committed the unpardonable sin. I hope someone helps her get an attorney, so she can put you in your place. She should be able to see her children, even if it starts out that the visits are supervised. People can change!

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