At First I Didn't Like Life As a Truckers Wife But Now......

by Trish
(Tyler Texas )

Hello, my name is Patricia.

My husband is an OTR driver. He works hard for US. We've been together for 5 years. I didn't like it at first. I was lonely without him.

Being we have no small children. We decided I'd ride with him. I had a hard time in the beginning about his schedule and his broken promises. Once I started riding I understood it wasn't his fault.

He's not out partying. He's busting his butt to make appointments. Very little respect from drivers in 4 wheel vehicles.

Being cut off, tailgated, and bright lights coming from both directions.

I Love My Trucker Husband. Best decision I ever made is to get in the truck with him.

We are closer now than ever.

I love him more every day!

Ps... I get to see all the States I always wanted to. And have pictures to prove it. 😉

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Sep 26, 2022
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Give It Time And See What Happens
by: Anonymous

Trucking destroyed our marriage!

Twelve years ago, my husband started trucking, and I was against it from the start. He promised that nothing would come between us, but over time, things changed. Due to my medical issues, I couldn’t join him on the road, even though I was willing to quit my job. My doctor advised against it for my health.

The first four years were great. When he came home, I made sure he had home-cooked meals, did his laundry, and stocked his truck with food, drinks, and snacks before he left. He always told me he was happy and grateful.

Then, things took a turn. His personality started changing, and at first, I thought it was due to stress, lack of sleep, or issues with his team drivers. But then he began arguing with me more, and I noticed he was spending time with a group of drivers who had a bad influence on him. He changed so much that even his team drivers couldn’t stand it—he went through three of them before deciding to go solo.

When he came home, I still cooked, but I stopped stocking his truck. He asked why, and I told him, "Let your ‘brothers from other mothers’ take care of that."

Then, the trouble at work started. He kept receiving warning letters from his company about accidents. I told him he was going to get fired, but he insisted he wouldn’t. As time went on, he grew frustrated with the company, complaining about not getting the same loads he did when driving as a team. He even took to social media, bad-mouthing the CEO, encouraged by those same negative influences.

Four years ago, he called me while I was at work, saying he lost his house key. Then he dropped the bomb—he had been terminated. The company deemed him unsafe. Since then, he hasn’t worked.

He got a copy of his DAC report, and surprisingly, there was no mention of accidents. However, every trucking company that expressed interest in hiring him later turned him away after contacting his previous employer. It became clear that his social media rants likely burned bridges.

Looking back, our marriage was good until he let trucking and certain people change him. He was influenced by the wrong crowd and made poor decisions. He never originally planned to be a truck driver—he was convinced by a co-worker who believed trucking was the road to riches. I warned him not to be so gullible, but he didn’t listen. If trucking was so great, why didn’t that co-worker do it himself? Turns out, he was busy taking care of his elderly parents.

My husband had a good life, a stable career, and a strong marriage, but he threw it all away. That’s his loss, not mine!

One thing that always stuck with me was the reaction I’d get at the doctor’s office when I handed over my health insurance card with the trucking company’s name on it. The front desk staff would just say, "Oh…" in a way that made it clear they weren’t impressed. They always got excited over police officers and lawyers—but never truck drivers.

I don’t know if he ever cheated. He swore he never would, even if he were single. He said he’d never mess with lot lizards because of the diseases they carry. But even my GYN warned me to be careful because of what he had read about truck drivers.

I wish you luck. If you can no longer be on the truck with your husband, just be aware—if he starts hanging around the wrong people, you might see a change in him too.

Aug 29, 2022
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Adjusting To Life As a Trucker's Wife
by: Hervy

I'm happy you were and are a good open minded and understanding wife Patricia.

And that you have a good husband to be proud of.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. It will help many of the wives and girlfriends who are reluctant for whatever reason to go on that ride to actually see what's going on over the road.

Hard to understand what the drivers goes through without riding out.

Many women just see it as their significant other traveling and therefor basically vacationing lol.

I understand its ruff on the wives and girlfriends at home as well.

Both parties have to be very understanding and intentional about trying to see it from the other in the other one's perspective.

May you relationship last a lifetime. May the couples reading this cherish and nurture their relationships and enjoy blissful adventure and romance!

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