Been a Truckers wife for 9 years...

by thegraymoth
(IN)

I've been married to an otr trucker for 9 years now. It was fine at first, I rode with him off and on, as we don't have any little ones any more.

Then things started changing in the last couple of years. I don't know if it is just me, or what. We moved my Mom in this year due to health issues, and I had been working up to that point.

Seems the last year or so, he spends a lot of money on the road, (advances) that doesn't allow for enough to cover the bills here at home. He claims that he doesn't spend that much (400 to 500 per week.) and that I am not thinking about how much it costs to eat on the road.

He recently has a lot of online chats with his ex, that he tries to delete (he has forgotten one or two times.) and he guards his cell phone. If he does get a call, he leaves the room, and sometimes goes outside.

So he gets a new phone, and forgets to delete the contacts from the old one, and there are calls that I know that were made at certain times, that are now missing from the log, and there is names in the contact that I know are not people in his company.

One woman I called, and she denied knowing him at first, then tells me that she probably worked on his truck at one point. I found out later that she is a team driver in another company. So why does he have her in his contact list?

I don't know, maybe I have gotten paranoid through the years. Maybe someone else has had this happen. I don't want to accuse him of something just because "I think".

What do you all think?