does it ever get easier?

by chelsea
(arizona)

I hate seeing him leave, i hate when hes out of service. I hate worrying 2/47 if our new baby will meet his daddy.

I just wanna know if it ever gets easier? Or am i the only one who feels like just giving up?

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Jul 15, 2012
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Dear Missy NEW
by: Helonwheels

It's time to join a club, organization, church within your community. Even if you do this online! You will be surprised at how many people you will find that will help out. I volunteer to fill the gap when I am not working or going to school, keeping busy makes time move faster, before you know it he is home again.

Staying at home going stir crazy will lead to resentment and possible depression and who will benefit from that?

Helonwheels

Jul 15, 2012
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Feel your pain NEW
by: Missy

Honey I am right there with you. My husband left on May 6th to go to school to be a trucker. He was 6 hours away for 3 weeks in school. He then started driving on a trainer truck and was only supposed to be on it for 14000 miles but everytime we though he was going to come home for a bit it never happened and the it seems the company he works for really doesnt care if he has a family. They just wont let him come home.... I have been married for almost 12 years and never REALLY been apart from my husband. It was the most heartbreaking experience I ever went through to see him walk out that door and to not know if and when he was ever going to come back. I waited 9 weeks and he finally got to come home for 5 days that was very recent. As a matter of fact he walked out the door again just 4 days ago and I feel like I am going through the hear break again. The loneliness of an empty house is killing me. I am in a bad situation to be a truck drivers wife. No drivers liscense to go get a job to pass the time nor no babysitter to watch the kids if I did go to work. I go stir crazy every day thinking and when he doesnt answer the phone I get anxious even though I know its probably him driving. I wish I knew what to do to help you through it but I feel like I am right by your side feeling the same pain as you!

Jun 25, 2012
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It does get easier NEW
by: Mamapie

Aww I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a rough time right now.....and I repeat "right now" because it does get better. But the rate at which that happens depends a lot on you. Helonwheels gave you some excellent advice!

Problems and worries are always going to be there but how you choose to respond and react to them will determine how you get through them. Being the wife of a trucker can be filled with a crazy amount of worry but you really can't let it consume you.

It gets easier when you realize and accept that you simply don't have any control over what happens on the road. Your job is to Pray for his safety, Hold down the fort, Take care of yourself, and Love & Support him. Stay connected via phone calls and emails helps keep the worrying to a minimum as well :)

Hang in there and stay in touch
God Bless

Jun 24, 2012
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Sometimes Yes, Sometimes No NEW
by: Helonwheels

Life has all types of complications. Yours is no different. There are many sad stories I am sure you can read about that are way worse than yours.

If you seek out and find help to put you in a better place in your mind you can then deal with just about anything that is put in front of you, if you want to be strong then seek the help you will need to deal with your situation or just walk away from it.

There are many solutions to help us deal with daily stressors. Try and get professional help though, you will be a lot better off.

It seems you can get positive information from the people here but there is way to much misleading information and upset individuals here also, so they really can be of no help when they are suffering too. Only sad stories of how miserable they are and feel and feel they have no where else to turn and put their husbands on blast. Maybe what they say is true but taking advice from them is not wise. They are suffering.

If you are truly suffering and feel you are in a bad spot in your life and ridden with fear then truly you will need professional help, try not to add fuel to the fire by listening to other miserable people's comments it won't weigh right in your mind at this point.

Try to keep an open mind for the sake of your family and believe that there are a lot of truck driver families who have made a wonderful life for themselves it is not as bad as some people put out there. Stressful? Yes. But if a person wants to live a stress free life well that is unrealistic! And the fantasy of living stress free lays in the mind of the beholder that's all.

Daddies go to war all the time and leave families behind, Mother's die of cancer on a daily basis, children are pulled from their abusive homes at a high rate never to see their parents/siblings again.

Ask yourself this do you really want to waste your days worrying about something you have no control over? Or would you rather waste that time making the best of a situation that you can control by making life easier for the life of your child and husband? Think about it.

Helonwheels :) God Bless!

Jun 24, 2012
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get easier NEW
by: Anonymous

Yes, it does get easier. When he finds a good company taht will let him get a lot of home time it gets easier. My boyfriend has switched 3 companies in the last few months to find the one that will work will and value him as a driver. Hang in there because it does get easier.

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