excpecting my first baby with my otr trucker bf

Its been quite a difference of having a seemingly long distance relationship over the norm.
Id like to mention Im also 5 1/2 months pregnant with my first baby.

So, it is to say the least challenging to keep up with a strong relationship while maintaining physical and mental stability for our unborn child.

I'm at a standstill of financial need over yearn for daily tlc that's lacking because of the situation. I just would like some advice from new moms experiencing likewise.

Any suggestions on how to cope with manning home and filling in emotional voids and such?

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Oct 30, 2013
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by: Anonymous

When our son was born, my husband was 1600 miles away. He saw him for the first time when he was 2 weeks old. My husband was our sons first real playmate. Me? I was just the constant mom. Always there ready to cuddle, love and nurture him. When our baby became aware, he knew his dad the moment he saw him even when he'd been gone for 6 weeks and recognized his voice on the phone. Dad was the one who got down on hands and knees and crawled around after him playing peek a boo. No one elicited more giggles out of that baby than my husband. I remember being annoyed by all that. After awhile I realized this annoyance I was experiencing was jealousy! I remember thinking oh my God!!! It can't be! I'm a grown woman! Nevertheless .... My husband has always been our son's hero. Now 24, our son is a happy healthy, well-adjusted young man who is following in his dad's footsteps driving truck. He'll be the first to say "I love my mommy and daddy". God Bless you and your little family. It will be all right as long as there's a lot of love to go around. :)
Jun 12, 2013
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by: Anonymous

Prepare yourself for the emotional rollercoaster of your life. Pretty soon your gonna be calling his truck every curse word you can think of. Being in a relationship with a driver is challenging enough, adding children adds 20times more complications. You need yo accept the fact that theres a HUGE possibility that he wont be there for any of his/her first moments. This is including delivery!! My driver was never able to go to any of my OB appointments with our daughter, and at the time i went into labor, he was over 1000 miles away! He met her a week later when he finally got home. Know that however hard it is on you, its gonna be harder on him not being there. Buy a really good camcorder so you can capture those moments to email, messages to him.

KEEP COMMUNICATING!!!! its very important more now than ever! Be prepared to feel that your gonna come in second place to your child, as he will want to spend alot of time with h/her due to being otr so much (aka making up for lost time). It can be frustrating and you may feel unappreciated and resentful at times. (Aka when baby starts teething and your extremely sleep deprived and hes sleeping in the truck 1100 miles away) Take moments when the baby is napping to spend time together. (Forget housework and dishes and laundry, its not gonna get up and walk away! Plenty of time to do that while hes gone, skip it when hes home!)

Know that all the emotions you are going through are jistifiable. Do not be hard on yourself over it. Be prepared for post pardom depression. Believe it or not its very common in this life style. Make sure you have a great support group at home to help you physically. (I.e. baby in hospital sick, driver 1000+ miles away and cant get home for another 3 days. It DOES happen :(

Good luck and congradulations!
Jun 12, 2013
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by: Hervy

Congratulations on your first baby. I will give you my 2 cents while you wait for some ladies to give feedback.

I find the universal pill to help with mental and physical stability is learning.

Spend some times learning more about the things that would make you more confident in whatever situation that you are in.

In your case since you are pregnant and in a the trucking lifestyle, some ideas are:



Of course the pages here are just an introduction to the subjects mentioned but there is a lot of literature online or in your local bookstore/library about each.

The information will just automatically help you to gain strength because it leaves you in a position better able to deal with your reality.

Of course seeking words of wisdom from the ladies here who are in good relationships and are happy will also prove to be valuable.

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