heartbroken and throwed away

by BARBARA METTS
(WILLACOOCHEE GEORGIA)

MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN A TRUCKDRIVER FOR THE LAST 7 YEARS,IT HAS BEEN A VERY LONELY LIFE BUT I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN FAITHFUL AND I HAVE WORKED MANY LONG HOURS TRING TO PASS THE TIME,I HAVE BEEN PROPOSITTIONE MORE TIMES THAN I CAN COUNT, AND NOW I HAVE TO WONDER FOR WHAT.ON THE 23 OF DECEMBER AFTER PUTTING MY FATHER IN ICU, I CAME HOME AND WAS SITTING IN ACHAIR IN MY BEDROOM NEXT TO MY HUSBAND HOPING FOR SOME KIND OF SUPPORT WHEN HE TURNED AND LOOKED AT ME AND ASKED ME IF IWOULD LEAVE AND OFFERED ME 10,000.00$ IWAS IN SHOCK,AND HE ACTUALLY THINKS THAT HE IS DOING ME A FAVOUR, OH GOD PLEASE PRAY FOR ME I CAN;T EAT ,SLEEP OR STOP CRYING,MY LIFE HAS TURNED INTO HELL, MY ADVICE TO ANYONE OUT THERE IS UNLESS YOU ARE GOING ON THE ROAD WITH YOUR SPOUSE DON'T GET ENVOLVED WITH A TRUCKDRIVER.

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May 19, 2011
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to barbara
by: Anonymous

barbara,,

we have known eack other for a long time and i swear i do not know how i came across this page i was actually looking for coupons and this came up and i am like what in the world,,but i am so sorry for the pain you have been through i just thought you were trying to deal with the issues of the loss of your dad i feel like such a looser of a friend but i honestly thought that there was still an issue about well you know and as i explained to you that never was i always tried to be there for you when all this was happening with john and your dad and i am so sorry for everything now i understand ,,please forgive me and i will be praying for you ,,once again i guess GOD works in mysterious ways cause this just popped up as i was brousing websites for coupons,,i love you and you deserve a good like i hope you can forgive me for not being a better friend but i honestly felt that you just needed your space and i was gonna give you that you are a good woman and i am so sorry for the pain you have been through ,,honestly i do not know if i would have been so forgiving but when you love someone as i know you do you can move mountains

May 25, 2010
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I understand.....but.....
by: Anonymous

I understand what you are going through, not because I been through it, but just the concept in general. I'm a trucker's wife, and he is my everything!! Early in the relationship, I used to cry every weekend when he had to leave and also anytime, on a Thurs or Fri, he would tell me he wasn't going to make it home. In these beginning phases, he once said to me that sometimes he thought it would be easier on me (my heart) if he left for good and just sent me bill money. He said that maybe I could then find a man that I could love (like I do him) that could be there for me every day and not leave me heartbroken to go OTR. This, of course, was a phase. After several years, our love has since grown so much! But, I will say, at first I thought this was just his nice way of tryin to get out of relationship. He would tell you, were he here, that wasn't the case at all. He says now, at that time, he had never had anyone cry over him leaving before and it broke his heart every time he saw me cry! Don't lose hope!

BTW ladies.....for all other readers, all truckers aren't bad. Many are just family men trying to make a living.

Jan 24, 2010
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Heart Broken and Not Throwed Away
by: Hervy

It's sad what happened, and it's important to remember what type of person you are. If this ends it is his loss not yours. Now this might not feel so comforting especially at this time but if its true then it's true?

No matter how this plays out, you can choose to get in an environment to help protect you and help you climb over that hill to a higher place or you can choose to withdraw away from reaching arms and lye down in defeat.

People on this site don't lye down in defeat and if that's what you wanted to do you wouldn't be posting. You will survive whatever happens and you will be stronger after the pain.

Something bothers me though, you said, he thinks he is doing you a favor.

That tells me (if you truly believe that) that if this is the case their is a communication problem going on for him to feel that way. That would also mean that it is possible to talk through this.

Did you shut down after the offer or did you get to the bottom of how he thinks he is doing you a favor. That is a road block to me. I can't get past it and I can't see you letting the discussion end with his last word indicating that he is doing you a favor by offering to pay you to leave him.

This might not be as bad as either one of you think or assume it is.

Jan 22, 2010
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Your not alone
by: Jennifer S

I know what you are going through right now is very painful. I can tell you now, this is not the end. Look, any man that would say this to his wife, is not worth the blood, the sweat, and the tears!

Life does move on after divorce.

Just because he is a driver, please do not associate "ALL DRIVERS" in that category. Just as there are bad lawyers, judges, politicians, Doctors, blue collard workers- there are bad drivers. Some men are just clueless.

Look, lets be honest, something is not right in a relationship when there is no support. Pull yourself up by the boot straps- no man is worth this type of pain, and NO MAN is worthy of tears when he pulls stuff like this.

Jen

Jan 22, 2010
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Heartbroken
by: Angie

I have been in your shoes, sort of. But there is help. I know what he did was cruel, and you are suffering on so many levels. The pain you are feeling is excrciating and your heart hurts like you feel like you are going into cardiac arrest any minute, the crying is uncontrolable and you have no energy and could care less if you did. And that is just the beginning of your living hell I'm sure.

There is a group called Celebrate Recovery held in many churches all over the world but look it up in your area. They have a divorce group and they are usually gender based and non denominational. This is a very important thing to do for yourself. Even if you are not close to God it will help sort out things in your life and help you take some important steps to help you move forward in your life.

Another benefit is there are other people like you looking for answers and a lifeline and a way to put one foot in front of the other. I know you probably feel like you are in fog most of the time, I don't know how I got from point A to point B for about the first month. My daughter had to drive me around the fist couple weeks because I could not think or focus on anything.
IT DOES GET EASIER I PROMISE.

I hope you start feeling a little better. dont' check out of life, many people are counting on you. Love and prayers, Angie

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