How do you deal with the stress of him being on the road?

by Jodi
(Ohio)

My trucker and I

So I am a trucker's wife for the 2nd time. The first time was kinda rough for us both. I was distant and didn't want to talk to him, guess I was feeling resentment then.

Now he is at it again, he has only been OTR for 3 months and I am not 100% sure how I am feeling about it this time around. We have 4 teenagers ranging from 18 to 13 years old. Things were really stressful for the first month.

We just moved into our new place he was on the road, bills where piling up, which we managed to get out of debt only to get back into it again. I'm stressing out even more now then before.

The kids are pushing buttons to see how far they can go before I snap. I guess my question is how do you deal with all the stress of it all???

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Apr 28, 2016
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Thanks NEW
by: Jodi

Thanks for that!
He is typically gone 2 weeks and then home for his reset. We talk multiple times a day while he is out, and I devote my time when he is home in spending it with him and the kids. Our relationship is great, with the constant communication it has helped. As far as laying down the law with the kids, it's getting easier. They are listening way better than before. I think a lot of the things that I am feeling is just from my anxiety disorder, but it helps to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way sometimes. I appreciate the fact that you took the time to tell me about things you have done or do now.

Apr 08, 2016
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Hang in there NEW
by: Anonymous

I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. He's been a long distance trucker since we've been together. At first, I wasn't so sure I could handle him being gone for 5 weeks at a time. Sometimes I get to see him when he does his restarts which is nice. I will say the first few months were the hardest. It helps a lot that we talk every night for quite awhile. He has a partner who drives the day shift so my guys the night driver which leaves us time to talk. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage and they do try to push the limits with me. I have since laid down the law with them. You have to be consistent in your rules and make sure they know you're the boss. It's much easier said then done though I know. As far as your relationship, what has helped me is the daily communication and making most of the time when he's home. You also have to trust him completely. Without trust a relationship with a trucker won't work. Make sure you take time for yourself. It will make you a better mom in the long run. I know it's hard to be without your man for so long. I miss mine so much but I work and do other things to stay busy. How long is he gone at a time? I hope this helps a little. Just know you're not alone in what you're feeling.

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