how do you do it

(medicine hat, an, canada)

I am newly married to a trucker. We are expecting our first child and I am starting to realize how very alone I actually am. He has children from a previous marriage and he gets to see them at least once a month which being seperated and living in different cities seemed reasonable at first. Now I'm seeing the times between slightly longer and when we do have his kids (7 and 9) it has become evident that he really has no idea how to care for them which is making me realize how little he has done. As the pregnancy progresses I am starting to realize that he really isn't going to be thereuch at all and he seems to think that that is acceptable. On one hand I feel like this is what I signed up for so get over it on the other I feel like why did we get married and start a family so I could be a single mother..... I could do that without him. I think partof it is pregnancy and hormones but I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to that understands as all my friends husband are home every night. My family is the type that really won't likely be there either so I'm feeling...... Alone.

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Dec 04, 2014
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I did it too NEW
by: Anonymous

I'm not guna lie to you it's hard. I was with my fiancé and got pregnant 2 months before he went on the road again. I felt alone like I was the only one in a crowd of people. But like everything else with a trucker husband you have to work at it. Everyone says love is just supost to come but when your a trucker wife everything is a job in its self you both have to communicate it's hard but if you truly love each other you can do it. My fiancé is gone 6-8 weeks at a time and only home for 2. Try face time or web cams for when he's stoping at night or waiting for a load.iv been raising our 3 1/2 month old son. His father has only seen him for 4 weeks of his hole life in person but we facetime and video chat as much as possible. Just try and talk to your husband tell him what's going on. You may feel alone but I'm sure he would be home if he could

Nov 28, 2014
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sorry your sad NEW
by: Anonymous

yes it is what you signed up for. research is the way to go when you begin a relationship so that the red flags pop up before u decide to marry and move on to have children. dont feel alone most people dont research anything and decide to go on gut feelings...well gut feelings only seem to leave a person with a stomachache!! lol. yes motherhood is hard and personally i think most women can raise children on their own...look at women who move on to raise children when their spouses pass away...js and good luck

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