How to deal with a egotistical one-sided very angry husband

I don't know where to begin or start this conversation but here goes. My husband has been driving OTR now for a little over a year & we are not newly married.

We are married 35 years & I have always been a loving supportive wife. The last time he got home time in April all was well with us. He asked me a question over the phone when I was busy doing something & I gave him the wrong answer, one that he didn't want to hear. Well I was willing to apologize & for him to do the same.

Now this argument & disagreement has been going on for over a week & I am willing to forgive, forget, & have life go on. But no my husband has to keep this crap up & even sending me harassing messages that he is quitting his job. No more pay, no more medical benefits & so when I ignore him thinking he is going to cool down, he sends me msgs saying if he doesn't hear from me in so amount of time, he is going to have the wi-fi & phones turned off.

He is even going as far as he will stop direct deposit of his check. Now something happened anywhere after Mother's Day till a week ago because when he called & wished me a Happy Mother's Day, he asked when Father's Day was & I told him & he said ok he will put in for home time then.

Well he messages me & said he would not be home next week, he said why should he come home when he is walking off the job the end of the month & he feels because he is paying the bills I should do whatever he wants & asks both out of the bedroom & in the bedroom.

When he acts this way, I have told him he is upsetting me & making me have anxiety attacks & he says good & I even told him he is upsetting the kids & he said good on that too. He is 60 years old & I have never seen him act this way & my one child is physically & mentally disabled & he is very upset by this behavior.

My question is & of course he will never give me an answer, but he either has someone out there on the side or he is getting influenced & persuaded by his trucker friends!

Also he just text me telling me his iPad just broke. He has anger issues that he has a history of throwing things & breaking his things when he does not get his way or when things are beyond his control.

He no longer calls us, do facetime or skype. My kids don't care if he calls us or what have you! My one even said to me hopes he stays out on the road forever & never comes home! Really nice!