How to live daily without him

by Jennifer
(Phoenicia, NY, USA)

I finally decided to request a break from the relationship with first year trucker. It lasted six years. We have had some problems before, and worked it out to talking even it was not resolved or I was not satisfied, we forgave and were willing to learn to work together.

Since he changed jobs to be a trucker, he seems interested in doing activities when he is home and yet, never asks me to join him. He accused me of being jealous. I believe that he is wrong. It is more about spending time with him or with him and his friends having fun, that never happens.

I am struggling getting over him. The sad part is I think he is enjoying his freedom. Do you have any advice?
Thanks,

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Aug 08, 2016
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Rely on YOURSELF.... NEW
by: Anonymous

.. for your personal happiness and peace.

If you need a man as a companion, that's fine... but he isn't going to fill the gaps... oops...

Let me rephrase that one.

He won't fill the voids in your life. You said you've been down this road before and you didn't like it.

Well, obviously you still have to keep on moving forward, one foot in front of the other...

So, keep moving forward, but do it more to your liking.

I think people rely too much on other people or even objects to give them personal pleasure... those things only create the need for more "things" and at the end of the day, you are still unhappy

You have to find something that allows you personal worth.

What that is, I haven't a clue, but the least you can do is search for it.

I don't believe in luck, so I won't say it.

Aug 08, 2016
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Getting Over Him
by: Hervy

Jennifer my advice is to invest your time and energy in something that you are interested in. Whatever you are passionate about.

Find a group, meetup.com is great for that.

If you don't have a passion that sticks out, then spend your time researching something that would benefit you. Like learning another skill that you are interested in. Maybe one that could generate revenue.

Another idea is to write an ebook expressing the lessons that you might have learned about relationships, yourself, etc. That could be therapeutic as well as help others.

Personal development especially with regards to relationships, communication skills is always a good subject matter to spend time in. Just helps you to become a better person.

Main thing to me is to be honest with yourself. You said that he seems to be happy with the freedom. If that seems to be true then there is no reason you should waste time pursuing him in my opinion. You should take advantage of your freedom as well. But don't waste it. I would also say don't rush to get back into something. There has got to be something that you would like to spend time doing. (That is constructive I mean)

If he truly loves you and he is ready for a serious relationship, he will come back to you. Especially if he sees you are moving on with life progressing instead of mourning.

Progressing forward means you will be an even better catch for someone else. So whether he comes back or not you are increasing your value as a human being and partner in a relationship.

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