Husband has a male friend who he talks to ALL of the time

Hi, I'm new so don't really know what I'm doing..lol. Anyway, my hubby has this "friend", also a trucker. He talks to him constantly, I mean a lot...at least 4,000 a month.

I feel like this isn't normal. it actually pisses me off. He will say things like, oh that pain in the ass Bill...but he still continuously talks with him..

I wonder if this is normal, or am I just being stupid.

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Oct 27, 2020
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starstarstarstarstar 		Yeah NEW
by: Anonymous

Y’all husbands sound gay #respectfully
Aug 22, 2019
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starstarstarstarstar 		Odd
by: Anonymous

My boyfriend has a guy friend who calls him alote. Even when he's home. My boyfriend doesn't really answer when he's here alote and the other guy gets pissy. Very odd to me
Aug 18, 2019
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starstarstarstarstar 		Ridiculous! NEW
by: Anonymous

That is messed up! The single friend has zero respect for the wife/girlfriend or kids, they are taking away so much time, the guy calling upwards of 6-10 times a day is either a lonely hearts loser that can't get a girl, or he's gay. But if your guy's not putting a stop to it I would seriously ask what's going on....
Aug 16, 2019
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starstarstarstarstar 		Sick of it too NEW
by: Truckers wife

Just started going through the same thing. This guy is relentless. Outside looking in I see he’s a drama queen. My husband is bitching about a lot more than he was before. He was usually pretty passive. This guy starting to rub off on him and it’s pissing me off. Like get a fucking life and let us have ours back 🤬 I’m assuming he has no other friends. If he’s this aggressive I can see why. My husband of course doesn’t see this. But one day he will....I hope ! I cannot believe the daily calls. Like wtf are they talking about to consume sooo much time 🙄 my hubbys never been a talker. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Jan 26, 2018
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starstarstarstarstar 		I’m going through something similar NEW
by: Anonymous

My fiancé is ALWAYS on the phone with his guy friend. They work together everyday for a few hours. As soon as they head home they’re on the phone with each other. My fiancé will be on the phone with this guy when he walks in the door. I have to nag at my fiancé to get off the phone so we can have dinner it’s so damn annoying. Then they have their evening call before they sleep. They talk about work most of the time and random stuff. So about 4 hours on the phone each day. It really pisses me off. This happens EVERY DAY omg
Apr 10, 2017
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by: Anonymous

My husband of 38 years has a friend who constantly call and I mean like 6-7-8 times a day, that's not the problem though.... the problem is he hasn't got enough common sense to call him when he is on his time.. 41 years old this guy who calls... talks about everything from soup to nuts and the occasional stupid conversations from what my husband has told me..but I don't feel the whole world needs to know about this persons girlfriends either who he freely gives out very personal information about such as her vaginal problem either that's kind of ridiculous, does he not understand something's are personal? there fore I refuse to talk to my own husband as I don't want to take the chance that someone else is hearing any of my personal problems either..I feel this guy suffers from some sort of separation anxiety and has to have someone on the other end of the phone most of the time when the girlfriend isn't home... This person I'm talking about basically bilked his girlfriend out of enough money and a consigned loan to purchase another truck when in fact he had to get out of the first one because he didn't want to work to hard??? Wtf is wrong with this idiot?
Aug 26, 2016
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starstarstarstarstar 		Kevin &Bob NEW
by: Anonymous

I just realized my husband is gay...crying all night...as long as they are happy.
May 10, 2015
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starstarstarstarstar 		husband and friend NEW
by: Anonymous

I think. Your husband is having an affair with his friend. If a male has sex with another male he will never want a woman again I know i left my wife because I want a man
Oct 10, 2014
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by: Anonymous

I found out about 2 weeks ago that my husband saved his girlfriends number under a mans name. I called her and she said they were married so I agreed to fax her our marriage certificate and she called him then me just to tell me he said I was lying. Saturday we are both going to surprise him together. He is about to get the surprise of his life. I wonder what he will do.
Sep 21, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		lonely trucker wife with 4 kids NEW
by: Anonymous

I have the exact same problem with my husband he talks to this other man sun up to sun down and I cry about the situation because I don't know what to make of it and its really bothering me
Aug 29, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		Yes they talk, and talk and talk NEW
by: Anonymous

I was shocked how many minutes my husband uses a month. It starts the minute he is on his way to the truck until he drives into the driveway a week later. I can understand the need to communicate when driving all those hours. Yes, it is like a club. They share traffic alerts, weather conditions, loading docks , routes, truck problems, dispatchers, the best places to park at night, etc. Some even talk about their girlfriends/wives, and children. I think all of this is normal.
However, if he becomes guarded about his phone, trust me, he's talking to someone he doesn't want you to know about.
And don't be fooled if you find all male names in his contacts. My husband listed his "friend " as a guy. I never thought he would ever do that to me. Ruined our marriage. Be glad it's just a male friend he talks to.
Jul 09, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		That pain in the ass Bill NEW
by: Anonymous

Maybe he has a boy friend ! You know what I mean jellybean
You never know anymore. If he would rather spend his time on
The phone with some guy instead of better half and kids that does not sound normal to me at all. It's either that or a girlfriend or he just hasn't grown up yet
Jun 22, 2014
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by: Anonymous

welcome to the club they form bonds out there like they had in school, remember most of them never grow up. it's easier for them to talk to each other than to talk to us. They have more in common than we do with them. They can talk about us, what it's like not to have time at home, waiting for loads, getting stuck miles from home, and like the one girl said they have someone to talk to keep them awake sometimes. I am about the third down on the list of my husbands most frequent calls the top two are other truck drivers. my husband has been trucking his whole life and he is the second truck driver I married. you would think I would have learned the first time. We purchased our own truck about 5 years ago, and it is not like a job for him it is like he joined a social club. They really become egotistical when they own it. Bottom line is there jobs are tough and they miss home. It's better for him to talk to his friend than someone else. be glad he has someone he can relate to.
Jun 22, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		Telephone Trucker NEW
by: Anonymous

welcome to the club they form bonds out there like they had in school, remember most of them never grow up. it's easier for them to talk to each other than to talk to us. They have more in common than we do with them. They can talk about us, what it's like not to have time at home, waiting for loads, getting stuck miles from home, and like the one girl said they have someone to talk to keep them awake sometimes. I am about the third down on the list of my husbands most frequent calls the top two are other truck drivers. my husband has been trucking his whole life and he is the second truck driver I married. you would think I would have learned the first time. We purchased our own truck about 5 years ago, and it is not like a job for him it is like he joined a social club. They really become egotistical when they own it. Bottom line is there jobs are tough and they miss home. It's better for him to talk to his friend than someone else. be glad he has someone he can relate to.
Jun 22, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		Telephone Trucker NEW
by: Anonymous

welcome to the club they form bonds out there like they had in school, remember most of them never grow up. it's easier for them to talk to each other than to talk to us. They have more in common than we do with them. They can talk about us, what it's like not to have time at home, waiting for loads, getting stuck miles from home, and like the one girl said they have someone to talk to keep them awake sometimes. I am about the third down on the list of my husbands most frequent calls the top two are other truck drivers. my husband has been trucking his whole life and he is the second truck driver I married. you would think I would have learned the first time. We purchased our own truck about 5 years ago, and it is not like a job for him it is like he joined a social club. They really become egotistical when they own it. Bottom line is there jobs are tough and they miss home. It's better for him to talk to his friend than someone else. be glad he has someone he can relate to.
Jun 16, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		RE: Phone talk NEW
by: Anonymous

My experience when that exact scenario happened with me was he was talking to girlfriends instead of "Mark"(a former student he mentored). And no, I am not the clingy type. I just started thinking it was strange that every time I called, he would be on the phone, which wasn't normal for him as per past experience, so I didn't think too much about it when he told me it was one of his former students. But then I started feeling like something was off and I started snooping and to make a long story short.. it wasn't pretty... about 5-6 women... that is what was keeping his phone busy. NOT MARK! I hope it is different for you. My husband said he started feeling disconnected from home on the road and when he cheated once, it was easier the next time... and the next... and the next... blah blah blah...he was a busy guy. I would be doing some snooping if I were you.
Jun 09, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		Watch for "Other" hints...! NEW
by: Anonymous

Girlfriend,
You should be glad he has someone to talk to, otherwise it would be on you to keep him awake while he's on the road. I wouldn't worry about it unless you notice other tendencies, like "secretly" talking to his friends. Don't get greedy too early on.

One of the reasons guys become truck drivers is because they don't want to be tied down to a clingy woman. It's important give each other enough space to upkeep a healthy relationship. Just make sure to keep him interested, so that he always wants to come home to you and only you.
Jun 08, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		Welcome to the club NEW
by: Anonymous

Sure you & I are not married to the same guy lol? Mine seems to find time to talk more to his friends than with me & the kids! Once they become truckers, they become haughty & egotistical!

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