I Believe His Behavior Spells Out Cheating - Any Advice

Due to my husband's behavior that has been building up over the past 2.5 months, I hate truckers.

I believe his behavior spells out clearly that he has another woman or women, whether it be a lot lizard or another female driver. He was not at home for Mother's Day in which he was doing a 34 and not at all did he send me a message or give me a phone call wishing me a Happy Mother's Day where in the past he has.

He is home now for home time and he has done nothing but nitpick at every little thing I do. We were in a supermarket when he for no apparent reason out of the blue screaming that I don't know how to satisfy your husband.

Now when he was home for hometime in the past when I started medical problems and told him that I can do things for him to satisfy him and he was in agreement. Well the last time he was home 3 months ago, he wanted to do something disgusting that even my own doctor said he was disgusting.

Well he wanted to do anal sex with me, then on top of that supposedly after taking his manhood out of my back door, he wanted me to do oral sex and have it half way down my throat to ejaculate, sorry for the pun, but when I told my doctor this, she excused herself and threw up in the bathroom.

She said that fecal matter gets on a guy's manhood if it enters the back door and basically I would be having some of my own waste in my mouth, this is why she threw up. Now we have 2 twin teens, 1 a boy and 1 girl.

The girl is special needs and goes to the doctors a lot and since their birth my husband did not want me to go to work because he felt I should be home with them. After the blowup in the supermarket, when we got home, I told him don't you dare treat me and talk to me like crap, he said to the kids, he was done, this marriage is over and your mother better get a job to support her and you 2 kids, my son said to him F**K you, I hate you.

My husband said your mother accused me of cheating, that is because I said to him in the car that if it was me away from home for a job I was doing and I acted this way, you would think I had someone. He started ranting oh you think you know every f***ing thing in the world and by the way when he started to scream in the supermarket, I walked away from him and he caught up with me yelling again oh who do you think you are, you thinking you must be big and proud.

Then later I said let's sit down and talk about this, he says there is nothing to talk about,and he said he did no wrong. The other day my daughter had a doctor's appt and I texted him telling him everything and that night he pestered me texting saying why doesn't he have a right to our daughter's medical info, I told him I told him everything.

I then told him he is a disgrace to all truckers and when I told him that there are lot lizards hanging in truck stops, he says there you go again, you think you know everything and then he said the reason I know about lot lizards is because I must be one hanging around in a truck stop to know about this.

My son told me if he had a gun, he would have shot him dead and my son then shot back and told his father that he should know because his mother must have been a lot lizard or a whore because my husband's father left his mother.

Me and my kids have total hate for him. Then he blames me for ruining his Father's Day and I told him he ruined that himself by starting nitpicking fights before he came home and he says he was going to leave on Father's Day and we told him whatever floats his boat and all the neighbors know our dirty laundry because he yells and my son told his father to apologize to me and my husband told him he needs to mind his own f***ing business and he told my son that he owes no one including me an alology because he did no wrong.

My son said well he believes when a husband has another woman on the side, he will nitpick and find excuses to leave and again my husband told my son think what you want to think.

I told my husband that our son was right and my husband said he was done, he is too old to be playing these f***ing games. Well when my husband went in and took a nap, my son took my husband's Father Day cards from me and from him and his sister thru the shredder. We cannot bring anything up to him without him accusing us of starting.

All we are asking for is a sit down and talk things over as to what he wants from us and vice versa and all he keeps saying is he does not want anything from us and he is quitting his trucking job and disappearing. We still believe someone put him up to this.

If any other wife had this to deal with, please we need advice and do not suggest counseling, he won't go and I am not wasting my time to see one by myself for him. You cannot change another person.