I don’t know what it means

by Cathy

Hi, I want to be optimistic but I don’t know. I think it’s bad that today my fiancée was waiting for a load, it’s Friday by the way, and kept grilling me on how he looked, if he looked nice.

He wanted to make sure he didn’t wear a hat, so that his hair looked nice. He then later talked once and then was unreachable all night. Something is really off kilter here.

Every weekend now this happens and I’m really worried.

Thank you Cathy

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Dec 16, 2017
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New Characteristics Could be a Warning Sign
by: Hervy

I understand you wondering about a new characteristic. If this happened one time, there is likely no reason to be alarmed. If it is a new pattern. I think the first thing you should do is ask him about it.

Ask him why is he so concerned with his appearance all of a sudden.

Also when you do talk to him, during your conversation always casually ask him where he is and what he plans on doing. If he is driving and doesn't have a handsfree device it could explain why he is unreachable. But if this only happens when he is in the same area, that means something. What, I don't know but it means something.

(You could also ask what time he started driving) Because 11.5 hours after driving he can't continue to drive. And 14 hours after the start of his day, he can't no longer drive.

Some things to note. If you asking him questions (showing interest in his day) about his day, then he will likely feel like you about new behavior.

Also if you never ask him about his day, it could be a reason that he drifts away from the relationship. Just like he if never shows interest for your day, you might feel he is losing interest. (If i were talking to him, I would be saying the exact same thing)

So both of you need to be in communication with each other during good times about what each needs in the relationship in order for it to continue to thrive.

You can't assume what makes him feel wanted and appreciated. He can't assume what makes you feel secure, protected and loved. You have to talk to each other about it to make sure you are speaking each other's love language.

If you don't communicate the distance apart leaves too much room for drifting away, misinterpretation, mindless or even inappropriate behavior, etc.

All of which could start innocently and without intention but end with unfortunate pain.

So the best thing to do is not wait to talk but do it as soon as possible and together make sure you are going to be proactive in strengthening the relationship.

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