Me & the kids done with being a trucker's family

Yep, the final straw came when him & his team driver came to have a layover by our city & his team driver went to a truck stop to do his layover but anyhow me & the kids have no idea as to why he came home! It certainly wasn't to spend time with us but to avoid sleeping in the truck & to avoid staying at the truck stop.

He did not spend no time with the kids, the only time he gave me the attention is when he wanted his "needs" met which went unmet! I don't care, he can get his needs met by some lot lizard, or out there at a truck stop by a female driver, waitress or a clerk & me & the kids are moving out as soon as he leaves!

My Mom begged me 2 years ago for me & the kids to leave him & move in with her when he first became a trucker! My Mom warned me that over time he would change! My Dad who is deceased was a Truck Enforcement Police Officer & what my Dad dealt with & the stories he had to tell well believe me if my Dad was still alive, he would have dragged me & the kids away from him 2 years ago!

When he called me & told me at the last minute he was coming home, I asked him why did he call at the last minute & he said the fleet manager was not sure yet if he had anything for them but he ate us out of house & home, he drank all of my Mom's sodas that I have here for when she visits & he had plenty of his ice tea here, he ate all her favorite candy, & when he did tell me he was coming home, I told him I was not feeling well that the doctor had me on a strong antibiotic for bronchitis/sinus infection & what does he do, but wake me up one time 2:30 am & another night 3:30 am for his "needs" & we got into an argument over that & the next day when my Mom called me she asked me what was I so tired about & I told her that she would be tired too if Dad woke her up at those hours & she said oh your Father never did that, he had consideration & my Mom said that if my Dad did do that, well the sofa would be his permanent sleep area.

So now me & the kids no longer have to be unhappy & my husband had the gall to also ask me what size turkey was I getting for Thanksgiving & he said he couldn't wait for turkey day, oh well, & even my kids were excited about moving in with their Grandmom!

My Mom's next door neighbor's son is an attorney & my Mom said he wants to talk to me because he said I have a strong case. This lifestyle may be for some, but for me & the kids truck driving lifestyle is not for us - the pay is at poverty level, some drivers like mine develop a Dr.Jekyll/Mr.Hyde personality where they are real charmers outside their family & treat their family like strangers!

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Dec 03, 2014
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It's hard NEW
by: Anonymous

Being a truckers wife is hard. But you have to understand what he deals with on a daily bases. My fiancé is away for 6-8 weeks at a time and the only thing I ask of him or expect of humus to love me respect me and play with our son when he comes home it's a faction to him so he shouldn't have to do anything but relax and enjoy his short time home. I'm not in your situation so idk the hole story but no matter how hard it is you married him for life so your supost to keep it that way. If he didn't care about you or his family he wouldn't have even came home he could have stayed in the truck and not even tell you he was in town.

Nov 05, 2014
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only one is u.. NEW
by: Anonymous

I think you need a new life since you hate it so much...I am perfectly happy with my life and the guy I chose to be with...he IS and has BEEN a long haul driver for 25 years as long as we have been together. his run is from West Coast To East Coast...California to Georgia and if that's not long haul I dont know what is??? You are a weird one if you think that driving 5,000 miles a week is not long haul you really dont know what you are talking about...he is home 2 days a week and takes 4 vacations a year. We have 3 children. 1.) a Master Mechanic 2) an Electrical Engineer 3) Graphic Designer...I am so sorry that your life was so sad or terrible... but you cant assume that everyone in this field has a bad ending as you have had to go through. Yes I do answer to a lot of posts here on this site does that upset you?? It seems it does so that is another flaw you can blame on your poor sad upbringing blame that on your family and stop trying to inflict your pain or blame others for your problems get over it so you can move on so you can stop acting so evil to mankind.

I will pray for you to have some type of happiness in your life.

Coming from this Truckers wife of 25 years.

Nov 02, 2014
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Think you all need a new life NEW
by: Anonymous

Yes commenter... Let me guess. You are the same one that posted on the Trucker's Wife post? Miss "I've been a trucker's wife for 25 years but apparently don't know HOW to be one"

A man comes off the road and you're exactly right. He wants OUT OF HIS TRUCK. He's TIRED. He's been driving for a very long time and you all sound to me like a bunch of spoiled ass kids.

I grew up being raised in a trucker household. I married a man who became one. I'm not talking about these guys that get to make it home every weekend. You can hardly classify them as truck drivers. More like deliver drivers. I am talking about those like my father, like my husband, and even LIKE I WAS... who only make it home 2 days a month or 2 days every 2 MONTHS!

They DESERVE to do NOTHING and to have their wife! If they were getting it from lot lizards (which they don't because they understand that you COULD LOSE YOUR JOB for having someone in your truck... or even WORSE DIE!)they wouldn't be wanting YOU! My dad didn't spend a whole lot of time with me when he was home either. Except when he was actually HOME meaning week's vacation. But I never questioned his love.. why??? BECAUSE THE MAN SACRIFICED EVERYTHING TO GIVE HIS FAMILY A LIFE!

You all need to wake the hell up!

Oct 26, 2014
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yes NEW
by: Anonymous

I agree with the last post not all trucker men are dogs you just were unfortunate to get stuck with a dog and he didn't get that way overnight he was like that long before he met you...those type of men hide it until they THINK they got you hooked and guess what you fell for hook line and sinker....best to start over and choose your men better..

trucker wife 25 years...

Oct 24, 2014
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hey NEW
by: DA

We are not all like that don't base all drivers on what he is like I treated my ex gf and her kids like angels they got what ever they wanted and needed and than some nice house brand new vehicles where not all like that.

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