My Life as A Trucker Wife

My husband spends a lot time a way from home.
we brought up 3 kids have 6 grandchildren.
I use to go with him over the road. Now I am at home more and he is gone more.

This company does not allow riders. The last 2 jobs had no rider policy. With this job he is home weekends. Friday night and all day Saturday and Saturday night leaves out anytime Sunday. After all the bickering and frighting for the past 3 years. Its took its toll.

Fighting over to much time apart and taking each other for granted.. I love my husband very much. I want him to keep his job. He is happy and loves being a truck driver. I am proud of him. I just want some more time with when I need him too. He will be off a week in August for my surgery. But its not the same. But it's all that can be done.

I tell him we need time as a couple for us we need to reconnect. But the Bills have to be paid. He thinks I am putting him and the job down. Saying sometimes I feel like the job is more important US. Is more important than me and you.

I know we have a place to live and food and clothes. And a nice car. But above all that, we need each other. I just can't get through. I don't want anyone else just him. He says I should be happy and enjoy what we have and the time we have. We don't talk about this.

He switched jobs, so we can have more time. I just wanted more togetherness and to reconnect. this is it it a nut shell. According to him I talk to much And should be happy with the time we have. And what we have. I do not work. I had some medical issues. this last one will be taken care of in August. The other 2 will be controlled with Medication.

I am happy He has stood beside me. You have a wonderful husband that cares for you and loves you. Your so lucky. I hear this from everyone we know. We need to appreciate each other more. And be more affectionate with each other.

This is the hardest to communicate. We've been married over 25 years.

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Apr 16, 2013
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I forgot to mention...... NEW
by: Jenny

nearly every week......EVERY WEEK.... my husband's pay is short. It could be $20, it could be $200. And every time he tries to talk to boss about it, he's "too busy, I have to sit down and go over all this".... which NEVER happens! I am sick to death of the lies and what this is doing to our marriage!

Apr 16, 2013
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Help, please NEW
by: Jenny

Hi. I don't even know where to start. My husband drives local and you'd think he would be home. Its now 8:30 pm, he won't be home another 1/2 hour or so, and he left at 3am. This is nearly every day. The company he works for is so unbelievably screwed up! My husband used to work for one of the brothers, who ended up NOT paying the salary my husband earned many times. No amount of threats got his pay, until he just closed doors and we were SOL. Now he works for the other brother, who is being ripped off (literally) by brother #1 AND his own wife - so now brother #2 has cut the company drivers' pay to make up for what has been stolen! They won't tell the drivers how much a run pays or if they do, they tell different drivers different amounts.
The trucks are ALWAYS overweight and not fixed properly, so the drivers get pulled over and ticketed. If there are tolls, the drivers have to pay because the office "forgot", a lot of times the drivers have to pay out of pocket for gas..and good luck getting reimbursed! Our lives have become enslaved to them - every moment of every day, that is all we talk about any more. He's angry and exhausted all the time. There has to be some regulatory agency to look into this!

Jul 03, 2010
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i totally understand
by: Anonymous

my husband and i have been married for 22 yrs and he too has been gone trucking , i too hear from people that i am lucky and i know i am , that doesnt take away how very hard it is to be alone , to raise the kids alone and to go to all their functions alone , and to go places and always feel as if somthing is missing of which it is my husband and the girls dad , the bills do have to be paid and i am thankful that he has a job one that he enjoys i never would want to take that from him there just has to be some kind of balance . trucking is an all or nothing job and if you want to be a great driver you must give it your all which means to be away . truck driving companies should realize that if they give their drivers much needed family time then i think they would have happier healthier drivers . there has to be a way but the all mighty dollar comes into play and that just goes right out the window . there is no easy answer just too pray and thank God that he allows my trucker to come back home too us and be greatful for what we have someday i pray it will get better i pray for you and your family

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