New Trucker Wife, Need SPECIFIC tips for surviving

by Terri
(New York City)

My husband started training last week about 1,000 miles from our home. He'd owned his own business for 23 years (not in trucking) and took 2 years off to rest. He was anxious to work, and wanted to do something that wouldn't make him stuck inside all day. So, he decided on trucking.

I work and have a 17 year old (he's her step dad). I own my own small business, but work from home most of the time.

We are in our 50's, relative newlyweds (2 years) and have spend every moment together these last 2 years. So, I knew it was going to be very difficult when he went on the road.

I guess the nights are the worst; definitely lonely and it reminds me of the time after my divorce and before I met him.

I have friends; most live pretty far away. And I'm an introvert so...there's that.

I've been going to the gym, keeping up with my job, the house and my child. But I feel like I have so much "empty" time on my hands and that's when it's hard for me.

I've been reading about how communication is so important, and I want to know more specifically about how many times a day/week do you all talk or video chat? Do you have a certain time that you set aside or is it kind of catch-as-catch can?

I really didn't anticipate having this, the being alone AGAIN, and I'm trying really hard not to be resentful...but it isn't easy. A part of me feels like I'm being played for a fool and another part of me wants to be supportive and positive (which is all I've shown him so far).

Any specific pointers are greatly appreciated. Thanks!