On My Own

by Jenifer
(White, GA, USA)

We have 5 kids, 10 years to 8 months. He started about 7 months ago. It's a really hard adjustment for me, alone with the kids and just alone.

I often feel he got the better end of this deal. He bitches about showers, well, mothers of children alone, when do we shower??

He complains about sleep, our 8 month old is breastfed and still up every 42 minutes to nurse all night. I know he needs to vent but so do I.

I just feel like there's little consideration for us wives, as if we sit around on easy street while he's busting his ass uh.... driving.... eating out....and oh yeah, having to deal with deadlines (cause there are no deadlines with children), and of course scheduled stops (hey, can someone let the kids know I am on a scheduled break for 30??)

Then when he is home he thinks he should be able to shit, shower and sleep, when do I get to take a few days off, oh yeah I don't. I am mom, as dad why shop he have to help on his "time off/home time".

Don't get me wrong, before driving he did help and was very family involved. And maybe it just takes some time to adjust to being alone and lonely and keeping the household down (and I do a damn fine job thank ya) LOL

Of course every other person on earth thinks you are rich when you say you are a truckers wife and then they all tell you about someone they knew and how they are all cheating with lot lizards, etc.

Just wondering if I am alone on the WTF spectrum of being the wife and not the driver. It's hard to be understanding of his job when mine is not valued. I feel better for venting now tho, thanks for letting me rant!