Sad probably divorce heart rip out confused why

by MARGARET
(PA)

Long haul story lol joking set aside long story but husband of 31 years. Was a truck driver 6yrs decided to buy his own truck he had it 10yrs very hard but business let him down lost his truck. bank after 1 month late and had some crap on his dac not bad things but every lil thing goes against you if you get ticket or accident now working at lan-sp-n as a company driver, we are ready to lose everything cuz the pay is not good.

Anyways, he decided to go teams, ok but but with a female. i love him with all my heart but i cannot deal with this. what the hell is he thinking he didn't even see if this would be alright with me just called me and said i went teams and i said jokingly better not be with a female and he laugh and coughed and said why. i went on his login info at work and wouldn't you know the fdgfdgf$$@#$#$$**&&% went teams with a female.

Got married at 19 im gonna be 50 in April day after my bday. we got married gonna be married 31 years. isn't this long haul of a marriage i just want to hunt him down leave me tell ya this is not in my book what realy gets me how a company would even let this happen. i think eventully talk to a lawyer on this 1 im so irrate i cant even talk to him even if we are about to lose everything we own.

my marriage was always num1 he said nothing is happeningim only working and its gonna give me a paycheck i just cant i just cant. this is like him sharing a 7by7 bedroom and its gonna be ok i drive to work in the am and every truck i see brings tears to my eyes. i get to my clients house they see my eyes puffed i go i must got bad allergies i come home eat dinner by my self.

i lay in my bed by my self everthing is just me im torn on this situation against it i know when your married trust is a big big factor but i cant deal with this just cant its not right or am i crazy just want to see what other people feel on this situation. all i can say now my Irish temper not calming after 8weeks of this.

cmon dedicated trucker wifes guide me on this senerio i got 99percentage trust 1percent not on everything in life not gonna change but good luck to ya all that deal with not being with your men

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May 29, 2013
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i agree NEW
by: Anonymous

Man do I agree. I would explode if my husband did that. You are right. He needs to choose. I know I'm late to the party so I'm wondering what you decided. For those that say you should trust and if you don't it means there is something wrong I say don't underestimate the bonds that form in close quarters. I would not chance it.

Mar 07, 2012
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BOUNDRIES THAT SHOULD NOT BE CROSSED NEW
by: me

ty for your opinions but bull crap your dam right there gonna be trust issues i always got at least 1percent no trust this so called husband should of never crossed this line it was told to him a long time ago dont even go there he could of picked a man to go teams so be it he making his bed he can sleep in it without me im not blinded by money there are certain boundries to keep a marriage going and this 1 not for me nope noway i spent weeks in the truck with him when he had his own truck i know what its all about no im alone weeks drinking my coffee by myself and he wants to be teams with a female bull shit pick a man thats all i got to say 31years of marriage he knows me and he knows this was a nono just because your married to a trucker doesnt mean you can do this im the old way your gonna do this work and be married dont go teams with a woman not good for my marriage even if he sends home a 1000 dollar check i dont want the money its just not right in my book of years i should hang a sheet from my ceiling and rent out his side of his king size bed to a man and experiment and see if no bonds begin huh your gonna spend 24/7 in a small space you are gonna create a bond i dont care what any1 says and see me every 3 months for 3days nope not this 1 not gonna work this irish mama not dealing with this. so call me trust issue thats ok still cant get over a company allowing this not right all they care about is making money could care if they ruin a marriage

Mar 07, 2012
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Trust Issues... NEW
by: Anonymous

It sounds to me like there is more problems in this relationship than him climbing into a truck with a woman. After 31 years of marriage, there should be a trust level there high enough to withstand this in my opinion. If you can't trust him to do his job professionally with a woman being his co driver, then she is the last of your worries. My driver has been teamed up for over 4 years. Sometimes with men and sometimes with women. Team driving garuntees (with most companies) more miles and better miles which intern equals more money for home. If you treat it like it's not a big deal, then it will NOT be a big deal. And if you can't trust him to do his job, then youve got more things to worry about than just his job......

Mar 07, 2012
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Sorry to hear this NEW
by: Anonymous

I don't know much about male / female's driving teams, but I do know this... I wouldn't like my husband sharing a small space with some other woman for weeks at a time when I'm at home alone in our marital bed. I think what you are feeling is completely natural. He needs to listen to you and respect your wishes. I am sure there are plenty of male drivers out there that could team drive with him.

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