Should I Date a Trucker?

You're wondering if you should date a trucker. Or you might be a trucker wondering if you should date as a truck driver.

First based on your current goals and commitments should you be dating at all? Then, you have to ask yourself, "What do I know about the trucking lifestyle. What can I expect."  (You'll find that down the page.)

For example, can you deal with...

• Not seeing the person for weeks at a time 
• Limited phone time especially is he/she is new to trucking
• Limited physical contact and interaction for weeks at a time
• And are you good at communicating
• Also are you good at navigating stress

These are issues you will have to face when dating a trucker.  There are issues that you will have to face as a trucker dating.

Then you have to look at whether or not you have thought about what qualities you want in a person.  Oh yeah?  What are they?

Whether he or she is a trucker or not, what type of attitude, personality, personal goals, do you desire in a partner?  And the most important one... Does he/she plan on stopping trucking and if so when?

AND are you ok with that time horizon.  Is the time frame negotiable?

And what are the plans to be able to carry out that plan?

Make sure this conversation unfolds in a manner and with future that is in line with what type of life you want for yourself.

This line of thinking has been absent in dating.  It's even more important when that dating is involving a truck driver.

What about your plans for the future.  Would a trucker fit into that vision?  Of course the level of seriousness in your dating will make a difference in how compatible the driver needs to be.

Things to Ask Him About

These are some questions that you might want to ask the trucker depending on how serious you plan on taking this relationship and what is important to you.  Some questions are basically the same asked a different way. 

This is useful to make sure you the right information.

• Are you happy with your life & job
• How long are you on the road at a time
• Can I ride with you - (Does company have rider policy)
• What are you future plans with trucking
• What are you future plans for family life
• How do you feel about taking responsibility
• How do you spend your down time Over the road
• Is this a career you plan to retire from or just a temporary situation
• What are you short and long term goals
• Does trucking stress you out?
• How do you take care of your health
  

Should You Date a Trucker?

Are You The Right Person

Should you date a trucker?  Or should a trucker date you?  That's another thing to think about.  You have to be the right type of person to deal with the trucking lifestyle to date a trucker as well.

What are you bringing to the table.  Are you mentally, ready to be in a relationship and as far as a trucker......are you able to deal with him or her being gone for weeks at a time? 

Are you....

• Independent
• Self reliant
• Needy or OK with being alone a lot (or not around significant other)
  
• Trusting and trustworthy
  
• Baggage free
• Resourceful

Here is something to keep in mind.  If you are considering dating a trucker because you think he/she makes a lot of money, it's the wrong reason. 

#1.  They don't make that much the first year

#2.  You need to do some soul searching if that is your goal.  You need your own source of income.

#3.  You need to look into much more than his/her bank account.  If the money is there it doesn't mean he/she is the sharing type and it doesn't mean you will be happy or even taken care of. (compensated)

#4.  Being dependent on someone financially is a sure path to depression and stress.  Possibly worse including but not limited to abuse.

Some Things to Consider

• Are you in the right situation
• Do you have any trust issues (or baggage from prior relationships)
• Do you require a person to be around you physically a lot
• Do you require  s e x often
• Will it distract you from your current goals
• Are you mentally prepared for a lot of unknown and possible let downs.  (Schedule will be somewhat unpredictable)
  

Here are serious warnings:

Stay single until you consider the thoughts on this page. Especially the firs paragraph as a start.

Beware of the trucker who...

• comes at you with game, slick lingo, pick up lines, etc....
• tries to pressure you into moving fast
• tries to move you away to the middle of nowhere
• tries to discourage you from communicating with family and friends
• tries to make you dependent upon him/her
• discourages you from pursuing personal goals
• is always putting you minimizes or down plays everything that you do
• talks about how many women he has or has had

The video below is a response to a post a young lady made.  Dating a trucker can be an exciting and fun or it could end up in misery.  This video may or may not apply to you right now, but it points out some issues to be aware of either way.

Other important realities

If a trucker is brand new at trucking, he or she can't even communicate effectively you about what he/she is experiencing or can expect.  That's not good for dating.

Trucking presents many challenges and has a lot of moving parts to it.  That's why I always suggest to new drivers not to get in a relationship in their first year.  My suggestion to you would be to take it slow for the same reason.  If it were my daughter I would tell her to not date a trucker unless he had a year of experience plus a lot of other advice, lol.

Give you an example.  They might want and plan to get home on a weekend coming up.  They might tell the significant other to plan for it as well.  The Tuesday prior to heading home, they have a break down or can't get a load headed to the house.

That will throw the schedule off.  He or she might still make it home by Friday but he/she might not.  And that is just one example.  It's dealing with scheduling and knowing what can happen.

I will give you another, phone connection.  Sprint is bad in many places.  Kentucky, Louisiana in some area, west Texas, California some place etc.  So he won't know until and won't know to tell you that. 

He might not even realize it despite you having tried to call and can't explain to you why you couldn't get through.

• Top of the page
  
• Dating and Relationships Information
• Advice for Dating
• Impact of Trucking on the Family
  
• Time Away From Home
• Making a Relationships Work

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