Trust

by Barbie
(Warsaw,Indiana)

Trust issues with MY husband the trucker. I of all people know my husband and also my GUT feeling when there is something wrong.

When he locks his phone when he comes home there is a problem, when he used to come home every week now its every 2 weeks there is a problem, when he hides things like receipts he lies about everything there is a problem.

I used to drink and he asked me to quit cause it was a problem and i did and he picked up when I let go. This is a problem,the lies he has always wanted a boat in the summer, ok its fine, well the boat started a fling and I know cause last summer I invited a woman to my house that I got off his phone when I checked it but this woman stood in my living room and talked to my husband and he didn't know that she was at my house and he asked her out not knowing that she was at our home.

This is probably why he locks his phone now but its about a boat or SOMETHING that i worry but when your gut is telling you there's something wrong there is.

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Jun 30, 2011
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Companion without intimacy
by: Anonymous

I've been married to my truck driver husband for a little over a year and have lived with him for 5 years. I have in the past found a text msg from him to a woman from "Cherry Blossoms" porn site of "I love you too" and received apologies and "I don't want to lose you" words after also finding nude pics of himself on my home
computer. About a year later, I saw a bill for an online chat service he had that was associated with a trucking logistics company and he said "You bitch!" Then, turned this on me.
He was very angry when he caught me checking his computer saying "I guess if you're going to accuse me of it I should start doing it" and "You must have the guilty concious" Now at home he sets his computer on a time based web page looks at the time on it before leaving and coming back to it at home. I guess just in case "someone" tries to check history. And we haven't had sex in 2 nonths when before we were married we had a great sex life. Says he has a problem with erections. Don't get me wrong, he is devoted to the home and future. Do you think this sex deprived trucker's wife should just be his "comapanion without intimacy?"

Dec 19, 2010
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trust
by: Anonymous

Ok well I dont have a license for 1 more yr and i have been down 10yr for dwi and the man above helped me through that so yes i do have to make a choice but its hard to do when i have to RELY on this so called husband as i see it he is a PROVIDER hell he didnt even get our son a pair of socks to start school in now thats perty bad cause he says we didnt have money but you look at his truck and its decked out with laptop and sirious radio and maybe xm and a FLAT SCREEN TV heck hes got a home on wheels and then he comes home and goes ans STEALS a lawnmower out of some1s yard cause we didnt have money what ever hes such a liar.IF THE PLACE KNEW WHAT HE STOLE FROM THEM HE WOULDNT HAVE THAT TRUCK BUT IM NOT THE 1 TO START TROUBLE WITH HIS CAREER.THANKS FOR THE ADVICE.

Dec 18, 2010
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I'm just saying
by: Hervy

Hi Barbie, hate your going through this. Like so many have said. You have a choice to make. I would start with having a serious talk with him though. Tell him why (I know he already knows)yous guys need to talk. Tell him you want to know where he wants the relationship to go.

If he wants it to go forward then you let him know that changes that you need to see. If he doesn't respond in that way then he just helped you with your next moves.

I hope the best for you. Here is a video that I made a while ago. Relationships is one of the reason that I made it. I am by no means telling hinting to you what to do. We know what you have presented to us which seems to point at letting go, but only you know the full story and situation so you will have to determine if there are alternatives based on facts in your case.
(does he actually love, does he care, do he want to keep the relationship going, etc.

What ever you do though, you need to have positive strong people around you. Not people telling you to do this or that just people to listen and encourage you to do (what you need to do) and not sit idle.

If you are a believer you already know there is a shoulder to lean on for strength to keep your chin up through difficult times

Dec 17, 2010
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Strength
by: Anonymous

I hope you find the strength to get through this.

Dec 17, 2010
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Trust
by: Anonymous

Sounds like you have a decission to make, stay and ignore or leave and find some peace of mind.

Personally I been there, I left and no I do not regret it. I found happiness and peace of mind.

Dec 17, 2010
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Dec 16, 2010
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Trust
by: DZRTJUL

Do we see red flags!

Dec 16, 2010
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TRUST
by: Anonymous

I TRULY BELIEVE TO TRUST YOUR GUT AND HE IS HIDING ALOT IF HE DOESNT SHARE WITH YOU WHAT YOU FEEL SHOULD BE OPEN AND JUST TELLS YOU THAT YOU ARE CRAZY SO YOU GO GIRL IM WITH YOU!!!!!!

Dec 16, 2010
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