Trying to get a handle on being a trucker's wife - advice?

(Indiana )

I'm a wife of a very hard working man. He lost his job back in July 2015 he went and sought bigger and better things. We'd always talked about him being a truck driver but I never really thought he would or if he did I would have thought he would be home every night until he found a company that would pay for his trucking school BUT he would be gone 3-4 weeks at a time.

This made me so upset. Of course I'm going to stand behind him but we also have 3 growing boys. 6 1/2, 3 1/2, and 2 1/2 years old. How am I going to do this?! I am a stay at home mom have been for the last 4 years but this just makes my job so much harder.

At times I feel like I resent him for taking this job but then again how can I when he's out there day in a day out making a living for us. I have so many mixed emotions, all my friends keep telling me it's goin to be ok, it'll go by so fast but none of them have trucking husbands. Their husbands are home every night.

How do I explain to he boys when they ask about him. We are new to this whole experience he is leaving for his first time away from home next week and all I have done is cry I'm so on edge.

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Nov 12, 2015
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by: Sarah

I married my hubby knowing that diesel flows in his veins. I was just hoping that he wouldn't return to the road (we all know how well that worked out). It was hard at first and there are days when all I want is for him to be home. I've spent the past 2 years being a single mom with the benefit of a husband. Here is my suggestion. Have him complete whatever contracted time he has with the company for them to pay for him to go to school then find a local company that will have him home weekly. There are a lot of them out there and they are not hard to find. You don't have to have a ton of time under your belt to come home weekly to your family. My hubby is out for a week then spends his reset time at home with us. It will get easier and you will adjust. Be open and honest with him but don't burden him. It's a fine line that we must keep to avoid causing our hubbies hardship. Find a friend or two that can help you with the kids (give you some me time) and that will listen. You can do it and you will be okay. You just need to figure it all out.

Nov 07, 2015
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by: Jeni

Things were slow and my hubby comes from a long line of truck drivers in his family. I mentioned one day he should get his CDL. I was thinking driving school bus. He was thinking driving truck. Well he got his CDL and got a driving job and we were both blown away by the 3 weeks out 3 days home deal. But we invested in school and we were going broke. So he went out to make us money. I had resentment so did our teenage son and I was crushed. But when he started driving we got a great unlimited cell phone plan and we both got Bluetooth devices and we could talk while he drove that helped a lot. Then my son and I would plan days to do things together and spend lots of time with family and friends. I would get everything done while he was out on the road and had two sets of bedding for the truck so when he got back I would just send him out with the clean stuff. We did the same with clothing too. I would buy groceries ahead of time so when he was home we didn't have errands to run we had family time. He drove OTR for 5 years and now is a dispatcher/ local fill in for a amazing local company. With hard work and support from you and the kids you will all be successful. It's a family thing that you all have to work at. Be strong, first 6 months is the toughest part but you will adapt and learn ways to make life easier.

Nov 06, 2015
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by: Anonymous

he gets his time on doing the OTR thing he can get a home everynight gig..... but he will have to get that first 6 months to a year in...... believe me I bet he hates it more then you

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