What a ride.......

by Nina
(California)

Hi my name is Nina and my husband is OTR trucker. We have been married for 5 moths. Who ever thought that when you get married you would be alone?

He has been OTR for 7 months and I thought it would get easier saying good bye each time. However it gets harder and harder every time.

I am hoping to get some advise from other strong women in my same situation. We do not have children yet however, we do have a dog.

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May 27, 2011
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Hey
by: Courtney

ME and my husband have been married for 3 months and he is also on OTR trucker. When he is gone i try to go and stay the night with family instead of stayin at home by myslef I find that it helps.

Sometimes during the day I will go up to my house and clean and that also helps out alot. You just gotta find a hobby. something that keeps your mond off of him bein gone. People keep telling me it will get easier each time he leaves but it doesn't. just keep tellin your self he will be home tomorrow and soon tomorrow will come.

Apr 14, 2011
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road widows
by: Rachel

I've been married for almost 5 years, but he started driving OTR when we had been married for less than a year. It's so hard because you want that person home with you.

I held onto my anger about his not being home for a really long time. I kep thinking he would find the perfect job. He finally got a job where he was home every night, but he was still working 12-hour days so he was exhausted.

It's been a tough road, but here is what I've realized - I need to live my life, be the woman I'm called to be, an just love my husband. In the last 3 months, I have made new friends and developed new hobbies and that has made all the difference.

I have also learned to really lean on God. And that has made all the difference.

Apr 10, 2011
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ride for real
by: Hervy

Nina, ever thought about actually riding with him?

That is if his company has a rider policy of course. Better take a few trips before the kids come.

If you can't ride, how about doing something productive to help occupy your mind.

Continuing ed classes or maybe even logistics at the community college. Or maybe there is some other subject you may have an interest in just never took the time to pursue.

Now you have free time (i am assuming) with less distraction (since he is gone)make the most of that time.

Always look at what benefits your situation could provide to your and capitalize on those. If you focus on the part of reality that makes you sad, it won't be a pleasant ride.

Make the most of any situation you find yourself in.

Apr 06, 2011
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Yes indeed
by: Anonymous

Yes thank god for phones and the iPad 2 with a camera!

Apr 06, 2011
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Alone but not all alone
by: DZRTJUL

Just remember that he is doing this for the both of you. I am glad to hear that you have a dog?!! They help a lot. My best advice is to keep supporting him always. Him being on the road is probably as hard for him as it is for you. Thank goodness for cell phones!! What did these truckers do without them. Another thing to remember is the military wives whose husbands and loved ones are gone for 6,8 ,10 months at a time, putting there lives in danger to keep us all save. They have a much harder time than we trucker wives do. Kiss the dog and pick up the phone!!

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