Why won't my trucker boyfriend call me when he is OFF the road, at home?

by Elaine
(Pittsburgh, PA)

Ok,we are both in our 40s and actually went to high school together, so it's not like we're perfect strangers. We talk on the phone for literally HOURS when he is on the road or waiting for a restart. But when he goes home, which is once every 2-3 months, I don't hear from him.

My first reaction is to think he has another woman there, but he says he stays with a male friend and his wife and I have found this to be true. They take care of his dog for him and his possessions are in storage. (There was a girlfriend who died suddenly about 4 years ago, and he never settled in anywhere--I have also found out this is true)

A couple months ago he brought up the idea of he and I moving in together in the Pacific Northwest, where he stays (I am in PA), and I am in full agreement and eager to do so, but I am also afraid because this is going to be a MAJOR life change for me. It will be very expensive, for one thing, because I will be hauling my possessions and pets, including horses.

Also, I will need to find a decent job (I'm college-educated) and a place to live. He says he will go look at places I find on the internet and check them out as far as housing goes; also, he says he'll pay the rent or mortgage, whatever we decide to do to get settled in.

So back to my big question: When he is "home", it's usually just for a weekend, and then he gets a load--but he doesn't call me or answer his phone. So, IS there another woman or is this just his way of relaxing and getting away from all aspects of trucking for a while--kind of like a mini-vacation?

Kind of like being in his "man cave"? I don't know whether to trust him and just ignore it, get angry, or just feel hurt. The problem is we're talking about a MAJOR life change for me, and I just don't know....

Please, any advice is much appreciated. Thank you in advance.