Wow, Some of the Stories Are So Sad

by Amanda
(Northern Michigan)

Reading all of sad the stories on here makes me depressed.

I am a new trucker wife but my father and grandfather were both truckers.

Being a truck drivers wife is not easy, but neither is being a truck driver. Some of the women that have posted I do feel sorry for but others.... No sympathy at all.

Our husbands our gone for days and weeks at a time, working hard to support their families at home. They miss and give up so much to provide for the ones they leave at home.

Do not start a relationship with a trucker if you cannot handle being apart, you can't take care of the home and kids, yard, and all of the other things that come up by yourself. If you or he is the jealous type, walk away.

If you husband wants to start driving both of you do your research talk about all of the positives and negatives, the costs ( financial and emotional) all of the options; owner operator, company, lease, team driving, the different companies. Don't set ridiculous expectations, just like any other job, you start at the bottom.

Understand what they give up for their job, for you, for your children. Understand that just because they are home doesn't mean there isn't work to be done. And he has been gone working for a week or more, he wants to relax. It doesn't mean he should do nothing, but don't have a list 2 miles long for him to do.

Don't complain when he calls to vent, things are going wrong and he has no one else to tell but you. He can't spend all day on the phone, I usually only talk to my husband once a day and some days all I get is a text telling me where he is and he is going to sleep.

No marriage is perfect. Everyone has their problems. You get out what you put in.